Problems with my hubby!! NEED ANSWER FAST!!?
Is it about the money or the truck? Ok, this is the deal..I’m remarried. When I got a divorce from my 1st hubby, the settlement included my car which was PAID for. Well, last Aug. I was in a wreck that was someone elses fault. The insurance paid out on MY car (my name on title and insurance) and so I decided to put the money in a seperate account at my bank because I think that the money from the car should either go for a new car or to my children seeing as to the fact that it was from my previous marriage. Well, my new hubby has this idea that I should buy him a truck with the money. Well, he literally blew up at me when I told him that the money was in a seperate account with my name along with my sons name on it. He wanted to know why and I told him that it was my money and he told me that it is "our" money. Now, I’m not stupid but I’m not going to give him money for a truck when I don’t have a ride. Well, before I had the wreck, he had purchased a new van for us. (in his name) We are in the process of selling the old one (which is in his name also). During this whole marriage (2 yrs) it has been rough due to his kids making my life a living **ll. Well, last year his son took a knife to school and tried to blame me for it saying that i put it in his bag. Well, what do you know, my new hubby turns his back on me and takes his sons side. I’m not over t hat and he thinks i’m stashing money so that if I want to leave, i can. I have told him that I wasn’t leaving butI did tell him that i was scared he was going to make me leave sooner or later so he thinks i should give him the money, acting in good faith that i trust him, so he can buy the truck and in a couple of months he will put the money back but in an account with both our names? sound fishy?? HELP!
BTW.. we have an account together that pays bills only. I have an account that MY child support (he doesnt make his ex pay child support) is deposited in and "we" also use it to do whatever with and its actually with a bank out of town and I don’t have a problem putting him on that account but i’m not putting him on the one that I share with my son. He turned his back on me 5 months ago and I’m scared that he might make me leave and I don’t think I shouldn’t have money to fall back on. I have told him that he should sell his van and buy the truck. He still says that it is an issue of the account not being "ours". We live in a house that is "his", the new van is "his". He even has life insurance that he pays that includes his ex. I beg him to take her off and put me on for 2yrs..no progress. plus, his mom is the beneficiary. so…what do you think now?
anyhew, we both have 2 kids from other marriage. Both my kids call him DAD. His Kids hate me. they hate my kids and have been very verbal about it. They don’t want us living in their home. SO, why shouldn’t I have money put up…im not that stupid..
Tagged with: child support • divorce • good faith • hubby • insurance • marriage • money • new car
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Not sure what answer you are looking for, as it sounds like you are pretty much sorted. The money should either go to your children or to a new car for you. The van is in his name and no doubt he will use the money from the sale for his own means (as you pointed out he wants a truck that badly he should use the money from the sale of the van as the truck will be his too)
On a different note you guys need to sort this issue out with his kids as it’s becoming between you, surely he knows how his kids feel about you and your children and he should be telling them to deal with it. If he wasn’t willing to deal with this issue with his kids then why did he marry you?! You don’t marry someone then make them feel insecure when their child tells an obvious lie… Unless you make a habit of planting knifes on children, perhaps you are in fact completely bonkers and your husband has yet to realise he has in fact married a mad woman.
Why are you still with him? It is obvious it is not working out. You both have some issues and don’t realize that a marriage is a TEAM. What’s yours is his and what his is yours. Teamwork is nowhere to be seen. Please get a divorce before you make your life worse.
the money should be for your kids. Divorce him
Not to be rude, but sounds a bit to me like you are carrying some extra issues from your previous relationship..not that anyone can blame you but you should start over with a fresh mind..I hope things work out for you
Your husband is a control freak and seems like he is keeping ALL his important financial gains AWAY from you. If you’re married and he wants to be IN ALL YOUR BUSINESS, you should be in HIS BUSINESS TOO.
Tell your husband that if he really wants THE ACCOUNT TO BE "OURS," that you REALLY WANT TO BE ON THE LOAN FOR "OUR VAN," "OUR HOUSE," AND PUT ON HIS LIFE INSURANCE AS HIS BENEFICIARY… not his ex or his mother.
Right now, your husband has TWO families, his family and you and your kids. He is keeping ALL his money in his family so that HIS KIDS will get his money. He knows that with his EX and Mother on his life insurance and with only HIS NAME on the car and house, YOU WILL GET NOTHING IF YOU DIVORCE OR HE DIES.
Your husband is making it, so he provides for HIS KIDS and HIS MOTHER in the future, if he dies. While he is doing NOTHING to secure YOUR future, in case he dies. Its obvious to me that he isn’t in your marriage 100%.